What is she like, this woman who is “far above rubies”?
For the past two years, I found myself suddenly the 24/7 caregiver for my husband, the earthly love of my life, necessitating faith in measures I had not yet mined. We had been through so much together in our nearly 22 years yet, our new season required more. More of something I hadn’t yet fully developed.
As it turned out, it was more of someone I hadn’t yet fully developed.
The beautiful character of the woman found in Proverbs Chapter 31 captured my heart. Yes, “she” embodied just who I desired to be in caring for my husband. But, I had to ask, “Lord, what exactly is it that causes a woman’s worth to be considered far above rubies?”
My answer came as just one word. It is Virtue.
Many recognize that same chapter in Proverbs as the description of “the virtuous woman.” The questions this mother of faith asks have become the same that I now ask myself in every relationship:
“What shall I say? What wisdom can I impart? What insight can I share?
And the answer? The truth of it is, for all of us, each in our unique lives and daily journeys, if we are to share anything of value, it must first be of virtue.
But what is “virtue”? Where does one get it? What is she like, this woman who is far above rubies? And how can I, we, be among this gracious tribe of courageous, virtuous women?
I found it written in Proverbs 31:30:
“…a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.”
That is the beginning of virtue!
Some years ago, Pastor John Piper wrote an excellent message on “How Can You Identify a Woman Who Fears the Lord?” In that message, this statement particularly ministered to my heart:
“…a woman who fears the Lord will live not for herself alone but for others, especially her husband, if she is married…
‘The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not harm all the days of her life.’”
I tasted many joyful times in the midst of this transition. But the most powerful thing I learned as I meditated on these passages is that God’s equipping came with the calling!
God already sees us as having worth that is “far above rubies.” My role was simply to choose above all to be a woman who fears the Lord.
In expressing this virtuous life, I have found it helps to begin each day, #onpurpose, with my heart and mind fixed upon Philippians 4:8 (VOICE):
Finally, brothers and sisters, fill your minds with beauty and truth. Meditate on whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is good, whatever is virtuous and praiseworthy.
If you are in need of inspiration, courage, or added grace for your season, I invite you to join me, to think on these things. In God’s sight, we are already “far above rubies”. For as she thinketh in her heart, so is she.