Money is often at the top of the list when it comes to arguments in marriage.
Jessica and Kyle were raised in Christian home, but their parents had a very different way of viewing finances. Jessica’s parents tithed regularly and were good stewards of their money. Kyle’s parents saw the dollar more as an earthly luxury. They worked hard for what they made and spent it with the attitude, “You can’t take it with you!”
There are over 2,000 verses in the Bible on money, but you won’t find one that mentions a courtship or a first date. However, if we apply the verses, there is some valuable instruction we can apply to both courtship and dating with marriage in mind.
For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
When two people first get to know each other, they will seek Jesus to help them discern if this is what God wants for them. They will need to look at the truth about who that person is and their worldview about many topics: faith, love and yes, even money. Jesus warns us that the love of money is the root of all evil because it can so easily become an idol.
The beginning phase of courtship can be a good indicator of how each person views money. Do you need to spend a lot to enjoy each other’s company and learn more about each other? Is the amount of money spent on courtship in proportion to the amount that is earned? Are there fun or creative experiences that are free or cost very little?
Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income. This too is meaningless.
At any age, dating and courtship will reveal the perspective on finances. Conversations about spending are a mature part of any relationship. When one person is focused on making money, spending money or any unhealthy view of money, it will impact the relationship.
“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.
Dating and courtship are a time of discovery. When the wallet comes out, so do the habits of spending. With all the confusion about male/female roles, “independence,” and even the bad economy, it just makes sense to create a dating budget before you go broke in the process!
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