Oh, my heart hurts when I open my mouth and out come snarky comments, anger, or anything hurtful.
I can’t take it back once it’s out.
As a member of the human race, I have shortcomings. One is my reaction time when someone hurts me.
Mostly, I can keep my mouth filter secured tightly. Thankfully God has matured me in this area. However, there are times I’m blindsided and before I know it, out jump my feelings of hurt, frustration, or anger.
God must just sigh. He’s been helping me with this forever. Gladly, I know I have the rest of my life to get this right . . . I sure hope it’s sooner than later. 🙂
My first powerful trick is to wear a rubber band on my wrist and snap it, rather than snapping at the person. My silence as a response is far greater than a witty or snarky comeback.
This trick works! When I know I will be with the person who triggers me emotionally in a negative way, I wear a rubber band. They don’t notice since it’s usually tangled in my bracelets. But even if they did, it’s nothing to comment about. I bought a big box of rubber bands at the dollar store just in case of emergencies and keep some in my purse, some in my car, some at home. 😀
My second powerful trick two is to recite a Bible verse or two before I come in contact with the people who trigger me. Actually, I pray these over my mouth often.
My mouth and heart do not always get along, you know.
However, we don’t always need to be silent: we can use kind words, wise words, loving words. Here are a few favorite Proverbs of mine.
Proverbs speaks of our mouth and the way we use our words dozens and dozens of times. In fact, the entire Bible has many reminders. You might enjoy doing a study on this using BibleGateway.com
Finally, when you blow it, and your mouth opens before your heart does, remember this:
Love covers all transgressions.” Apologize right away. That alone disarms the trigger person.
And God smiles.
I love this trick too, and even if it’s not possible, it’s a cute reminder: