Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.
Though my heart was heavy reading a recent article about a teen girl and dating gone wrong, I am constantly encouraged by those who are making better choices. I don’t know anything about the girl’s family, her values or her faith in the article I read, but what I do know is that we have a big job ahead to point our kids in the right direction. The teen dating crisis is an equal opportunity destroyer, and we have the opportunity to step up as a church and face the problem head on.
What surprises me is when I speak to parents who are convinced they have it all figured out…until they don’t. Like, the 14-year-old daughter that leads a small group at church on Sundays with a hangover. Or the 16-year-old boy that talks to his friends about his sex addiction that he can’t seem to control even though he know it is not God’s will. The teen dating disaster is invading homes like the plague when often (not always) it could have been prevented.
17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. 18 Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit,
Why are we so blind to believe that our parenting influence (or in some cases, control) is the secret sauce to raising kids with social virtues? Just because they have a rock solid faith does not mean they are exempt from an education about the risks in dating and how to steer clear of them.
Whoever heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores correction leads others astray.
Every day I try to balance the Christian viewpoint with practical application to create opportunities for kids to have the “Aha! moment” that will keep them from making a bad decision. It takes more than a village now. It takes time, education, observation, practice and a ton of energy to keep our kids safe. But we have Jesus on our side!
Teen dating in the Christian community is real and can be risky whether we believe it or not. By ignoring the problem, we are stealing our kid’s chance of staying out of danger. Do not let the label of “Christian” fool your child into becoming a victim of the teen dating crisis. Education is key, and Jesus is the answer!
Love Quote: “If you can learn to drive safely, you can learn to date safely.”
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