What Do Men Want In A Proverbs Woman?

Proverbs 31:10-31The Message (MSG)

 A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds.

The Scripture below and in the image is taken from the New International Version; where the word used is “rubies.” In our current culture, it is customary to put a diamond on the hand of a woman you want to marry – a great reminder that she is worth far more than any gem you can find!

Proverbs 31:10-31New International Version (NIV)

10 A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.

These verses can raise some interesting questions pointing to what men are looking for in a woman. Is it possible to be a Proverbs 31 woman? Are men expecting too much? Apply these verses to today’s woman followed by the expectations that many Christian men have today:

(***Disclaimer: This was a broad study group of men (all ages) tasked with responding collectively to each verse and what it would mean in marriage)

“A good woman is hard to find. Even through the church, I am having a hard time meeting women of character.”

11 Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.

“I want to be able to trust her completely and know that she has the heart and mind of Christ Jesus and has unshakable values.”

12 She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.

“I want to be sure that she will defend me to her friends and family, and gently correct me in private when I am wrong.”

13 She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.

“I hope she be a good steward with our hard earned money and have a good work ethic.”

14 She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.

“I hope that I meet someone that still knows how to cook a meal and understands the value of eating together as a family.”

15 She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.

 “I hope she is up early and will contribute to a great start to our day. By being organized, she encourages an environment of peace and harmony that are part of the memories we will create together.”

16 She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

“I would like to find someone who is frugal with money and knows how to invest wisely for the future.”

17 She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.

“I would love to find a woman who is both feminine and strong and is not afraid of hard work.”

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.

“I hope I meet a woman that is intelligent and understands the value of putting in a full day to meet the ongoing demands of everyday life.”

19 In her hand she holds the distaff
    and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

“I hope I find a woman who knows how to get the longest life out of things by repairing and repurposing instead of unnecessarily replacing things.”

20 She opens her arms to the poor
    and extends her hands to the needy.

“I hope my future wife is compassionate and generous and welcomes the opportunity to care for others in need.”

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

“I would love to know that my future wife is prepared for the change of seasons and knows in advance what is needed for the change in seasons or life stages.”

22 She makes coverings for her bed;
    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

“I hope she will know how to create a beautiful home environment with what we have.”

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
    where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

“I hope I can be the kind of man that is respected in my community and with the support of my wife, I will have a good reputation because of my choices.”

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.

“I want to support a woman who uses her God-given talent and pursues her passion with excellence.”

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.

“My future wife is modest and classy in the way she dresses, and people will be drawn to her positive outlook.”

26 She speaks with wisdom,
    and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

“I hope my future wife is careful when she speaks and uses words that are encouraging and edifying.”

27 She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.

“I hope my future wife will not be lazy and expect others to wait on her. I hope she will be able to keep an eye on everyone in our family so that we do not get complacent.”

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:

“I know I will be proud of my future wife, and our children will be grateful for all she does for them.”

29 “Many women do noble things,
    but you surpass them all.”

“I will never have the desire to look at any other woman because my wife will surpass them all!”

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

“My future wife will always be beautiful to me because of how she loves the Lord.”

31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gates

“I will want to give her far more than she deserves and I will be overwhelmed with what she has done for me, for us and Our Lord and Savior! And the whole town will know it!”

Wow! That is a tall order! If you are like me, there were parts that made you cringe. That’s ok! We would love to hear what you have to say in the comments below. We are all in this together!

Want to see what the women have to say about the Godly man they want to meet? Check this article out!

What Do Women Look For In A Godly Man?

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    January 12, 2016
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      January 13, 2016
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    January 14, 2016
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