What I’ve Learned From My 3 Dads

I’ve had three dads.

One died when I was three months old in a plane crash. My uncle stood at the chain link fence and watched the little Cessna lose all it’s power and fall out of the sky with my dad in the pilot’s seat. He was a 27-years-old.

My second dad was a comedian, always the life of the party. Everyone loved him, including me. I didn’t respect him, though; he made choices that were not funny and certainly never encouraged or supported in any of the parenting books I’ve ever read.

My “dad” now is a man that married my mom when I was in my 40’s. In the beginning, he was gruff, impatient and opinionated. Alzheimer’s stripped all of that away leaving a kind, generous, docile man that lights up when my mom kisses his cheek. He’s 89.

My point in telling you this is that I have had some experience with “dads.” I’ve learned about generosity, abandonment, passion, anger, laughter, loneliness and admiration. I stitched together all the good things about a Father’s Love and tossed aside the pieces that I did not want to take with me.

All of my dads were born human. They were flawed, just like every dad…and like me.

There will never be a perfect human father. We cannot expect that and not also be disappointed. Whether mother, father, friend, neighbor or any person walking this earth, we are all flawed.

John 8:41

You are doing the works of your own father.” “We are not illegitimate children,” they protested. “The only Father we have is God himself.”

We can praise the Lord that we have a Father in Heaven that fills all the holes, all the gaps, and purifies all the inconsistencies of our human experience. He came, he died, he knows every sin, every regret, every tear. In one amazing moment, He chose to be the good, good Father, that we all so desperately need. Three-in-one, the Trinity of three perfect Fathers as one perfect Love.

Cling to Him and his promises; they are true. Let your Father lavish you with His incredible Love and renew your faith in Him.

He makes all things new.

Revelation 21:5

He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Then he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.”

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