With This Ring, I Give You My Promise

What do we promise with the ring on our finger?

As a wife, I have learned a great deal about the promise I have made to my husband in holy matrimony. I’ve learned what it means to put another person’s needs before my own. I am beginning to understand the difference in how I view respect, and how he defines respect. I have bumped up against the challenges of living out the promise I made to him when he placed the ring on my finger before God.

Colossians 3:12-13

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

How am I supposed to be kind when my feelings are hurt? How will I respond with patience when I have to tell him the same thing for the 97th time? Why do I hold onto a grudge because he made other plans for date night?

Proverbs 12:4

A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

I don’t like behaving on the wrong side of this verse. I made a promise to my husband that sometimes gets lost in under the pile of dirty dishes. My character is far from noble, and the crown is not fit to wear.

But, my husband is a grace giver.

He sees through all of my inequities and still gets a twinkle in his eye when he looks at me. He made a promise, and so did I. We made the promise to each other and to God, and we want our relationship to reflect His Love.

Marriage is a lifetime of growth together. We are faster with forgiveness, gentler in our responses, and allow humility to take the place of pride. We serve each other with Love and are reminded of the promise we made to each other when the rings were placed on our fingers.

Whether you are married or single, read these words as an encouragement for the way that God sees His bride. That His Love for you is the true promise of how He cares for you.

The Promise and the Privilege

With this ring, I give you my promise
that from this day forward
I will give you all my love,
and you shall not walk alone.
I have no greater gift to give.
As your love is my anchor,
and your trust is my strength,
May my heart be your shelter
and my arms be your home.
As this ring has no end or beginning,
so shall my love for you be.
As I place it on your finger,
I give you all that I am,
and all that I shall become.

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